Will a therapist not trained in handling transference be able to work through and understand issues like a client being jealous of and angry towards him/her?

In short, no, not at all. That is unless this untrained therapist is in intensive consultation with a psychodynamic or psychoanalytic psychotherapist.
Being able to navigate through the thickets of transference and countertransference is an art. It takes a good deal of study, work, and practice under supervision by a
seasoned therapist.
It is equally decisive that the untrained therapist to enter into psychoanalytically oriented therapy with multiple sessions weekly.
I cannot overstate that one’s therapy is the best learning experience for the fledgling therapist.
You are exercising good care in wondering about this. Not all therapists are trained to look for how they’ve contributed to a thorny transference.
The great British psychoanalyst stated this profound adage that all therapist should follow: when things become problematic, the therapist should neither attack or withdraw from the patient. That adage is far more hard to attain than might be thought at first contact with that brief but powerful caution.
To not to attack or withdraw requires a deep-going understanding of what motivates the therapist, and how well he or she can contain the fiery emotions of the patient. At the same time, the therapist must be able to hold his or her emotional reactions.
Containing or holding all those feelings is challenging. To be able to do that requires thoroughgoing psychotherapy for the therapist.
Ultimately, I advise you to locate a therapist like the mythical one I’ve described above. An untrained therapist should not attempt this kind of work, and you are right to protect yourself.

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How can someone help a young child with anxiety about the weather?

Let the young child talk about the weather and what scares her or him. It would help to go online and help him, or she to discover sites that explain all kinds of weather. It would then be worthwhile to take the child outside to learn about cloud formations and which clouds bring what types of weather.

It helps to talk with the child about what precautionary steps can take for which kind of weather. Making a game of it and finding the child’s innate sense of humor will also help.

These steps should help the child calm down. It would also help to teach the child deep breathing techniques when weather-related anxiety hits.

Finally, you as the adult can embody a calmer, more fascinated response when troubling anxiety arises in the child with the weather.

Remember, the most helpful response is to let the child talk about his or her fears. Let him or her talk about all of what unsettles her or him about the weather. It’s also imperative not to criticize the child’s fears.

Also remember this about children who are in distress that we find hard to withstand or help: don’t attack the child, and don’t withdraw. Children cope best with adults who are receptive and calming.

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The Crucifixion of Tomas Young

I am posting this article by one of my revolutionary heroes, Chris Hedges. I’ll not reveal anything of the piece here with the hope that you will discover the anti-war message so dreadfully captured in the life of this young soldier, Mr. Young. His Last Letter, an open letter addressed to two war criminals, George Bush and his henchman, Dick Cheyney.

As Hedges advises, we all need to rise and demand an exit from our deadly, endless wars, and especially shield all the young soldiers fed into this mindless maw. Not to mention stopping the murder of the many thousands we’ve murdered in these remorselessly rapacious wars.

Here is the link: https://www.truthdig.com/articles/the-crucifixion-of-tomas-young/

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Pain Clinics as the New Exploiters of Pain Patients

It finally happened to me. I watched and reported on it for years, and now I am the subject of my column on abandoned patients. My doctor referred me to a pain clinic for continuing opioid prescriptions. He informed me that with the change in Illinois law governing opioid prescribing that his practice could no longer support the prescribing opioids. He offered me the name and number of a local pain clinic.

This unwanted change upended me late last Summer. I immediately contacted the pain practice for an appointment and was seen rather quickly.

It was then I decided to try to stop taking oxycontin, an opioid among others I had used for nearly 20 years. At first, I gradually tapered off the daily 80 milligrams I’d been taking for five years. In the first weeks, I sailed along with no withdrawal symptoms nipping hungrily at my heels.

No sweat, I had this. I mean, until the demon hubris took over, and I stupidly thought I could skip the last few milligrams I had been taking to allow my brain to adjust slowly to non-opioid-saturated synapses.

Within two days, my calamitous decision dumped me headlong into the horror-leavened universe of Withdrawal Agonistes: I sweated endlessly; my body shook with tremors weaponized by skin-crawling agitation; plagued by sleeplessness and wild mood swings–terror and rage–I endured the full panoply of the harder edges of sudden decampment from the gauzy world of opioid analgesia.

With a call to my new pain docs, I was seen forthwith and given a small dose of a narcotic analgesic and gabapentin. Tag-teaming, the meds wrestled the Agonistes to a standstill, and I returned to my narrow peninsula of normalcy.

Unknown to me at that time, my peninsula had been markedly reduced by the “new normal.”

It’s my experience that anything referred to as the “new normal” is something we used to enjoy but is now significantly reduced or made far less attractive and that we must adjust to these “new” circumstances. In advertising, “new” is always touted as better, improved over the old lot. In reality, not so much!

Not so with the “new normal.” No, this new normal is fucked, no matter how much “new” in the “new normal,” we all know that the “new” is are a fatal reduction from the old, and we must get used to it. In these times, our ability to adjust to reduced conditions is a measure of our mental health.

For me, as a lifelong pain patient, the new normal without Oxycontin or Fentanyl is an expensive chore. For many years, some researchers and addictions docs vilified those physicians who prescribed adequate amounts of opioid analgesics to provide us with a modicum of control over what was once beyond the reach of medical treatment.

Opioids save the lives of those like me who lived, if living it can be called, with the horror of constant mind and personality altering pain. Opioids provide people like me with relative pain-free space that allows us to breathe, to think, to feel without the gnawing anxiety that robs us of our lives.

Doctors routinely excoriated for adding to and hastening the so-called opioid epidemic have been forced to back away from patients like me.

We, the patients in need of care, are given over to the over-priced care of assembly-line clinics who charge way more for pain relief than what I paid in the past. Additionally, we are forced to pay for more doctor visits to get our prescriptions once a month as opposed to every 3 or 4 months.

The necessity of spinal injections compounds these increased appointments, nerve ablations, stemcell recovery, and reinjection into stressed joints increases our time spent in waiting for our docs and fees we pay for the multiplying dates and money spent.

If there were pill mills, and there were in places like Florida and Kentucky, there are now “sanctioned” pain clinics making money off people like me whose bodies are pathways for these newest exploiters to get rich off the least powerful. Whatever new regime steps in, it is sure to make tons of money off exploiting those of us in desperate need of compassionate pain relief.

My next posting will examine how “empire capitalism” impacts our pain care.

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Former Drug Czar: going after prescription opioids is wrongheaded

https://www.foxnews.com/health/former-drug-czar-opioid-epidemic-focus-missing-real-culprit

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https://truthout.org/articles/rise-in-white-prisoners-shows-prison-racism-goes-beyond-disparities/

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How does one acquire a “Thicker Skin” in dealing with highly emotional taxing careers such as a Psychologist or Psychiatrist?

“Thick skin” is a provocative notion about which all new therapists should consider, then reject.

In my work and with those younger therapists with whom I’ve taught and consulted, I do the opposite. I try to help them become even more vulnerable to all the vagaries that can, and do, arise in therapy.

Without emotional vulnerability to our patients, we have no way to enter their worlds, and, therefore, can be of no lasting help.

You may be more broadly asking how those of us who do this work keep ourselves going in the face of the natural stresses of this work. How to care for ourselves is a more pertinent question for those of us who work with people who experience extreme mental states: Borderline personality disorders, narcissistic personality disorders, and the psychoses.

Significantly, we all need our therapists as well as consultants, along with routines that help us unwind and engage in pursuits unrelated to our work. Strong friendships and a loving family are essential.

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Should a psychotherapist be completely transparent in patient interactions? More specifically, should they openly express or conceal their emotions and reactions to the patient?

The answer depends on the patient, her/his diagnosis, and the state of the relationship between us. No, in general, I am cautious about many of my thoughts and feelings as I treat them as speculative.

However, if what I am thinking or feeling is drawn into the interaction, especially if asked directly, then, yes I am transparent. I immediately pay close attention to how the patient reacts to this disclosure.

With some patients who grew up having to be exquisitely aware of a parent’s thoughts, feelings, and behavior to survive, I will be far more transparent than with other patients. Coming from a background where physical/psychological safety depended on the patient’s ability to know what’s going on, I have to be more active in helping that person tease out what they “know” and what is going on in me. I don’t want to do anything to increase the patient’s “paranoia” about me.

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I’ve been told that all personality disorders are egosyntonic, and that therefore if I wonder about having BPD I don’t, and should not see a doctor. Is this true?

Ask yourself this, Dan. Would you find the following egosyntonic: afraid that everyone despises your very presence. How about this: you fear close emotional relationships based on the “crazy” closeness that you experienced as a small child. Add to that this; you fear any signs of someone moving away from you emotionally as that signals an abandonment and annihilation that you may not survive. Additionally, suppose that intense emotions can kick you into a state of psychosis from which you fear you may never recover; another form of death. Imagine, if you can, that you wake up every morning and go to sleep every night with this underlying terror: I will be eviscerated and killed.

Imagine all that, Dan, and think about the experience, empathy, and intelligence of those who have told you that this ghastly disorder is “egosyntonic.”

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I think my therapist is retiring.She knows I have abandonment issues.I think she is testing me.Something about the way she is acting makes me feel she’s getting ready to tell me she will be leaving. Do therapist test their clients? How can I tell?

No, I can’t imagine a competent/ethical therapist “testing” any patient. The best way to handle this, and likely a good step for you, would be to talk to your therapist about your fantasies of being abandoned by her. I suspect you might find that difficult if not, you wouldn’t be posing this question here.

I believe your therapist would be pleased if you bring this up and would be happy to discuss this with you. Good luck.

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