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Can I ask my son’t therapist for a date?

https://www.quora.com/Can-I-ask-out-my-sons-therapist/answer/Mark-Maginn Can I ask out my son’s therapist? Mark Maginn Mark Maginn, Psychotherapist, poet, memoirist Written 2m ago Certainly can. But should you? Short answer, no. And if you did, I would hope for you son’s sake that he would … Continue reading

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My therapist doesn’t believe me. What is a good way to proceed?

If your therapist cannot adequately explain to you why he has disbelief about you I’d ask if he’s consulted anyone regarding this or worked on this in his or her own therapy. If all that isn’t happening run, don’t walk … Continue reading

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This is for people who have gone to therapy. For therapists, how do you end sessions when you both (you and the client) stand up? How do you know whether to shake hands or to not shake hands? The same question applies to the side of the client.

Steve, you’d be surprised how little we therapists actually know. When I was younger I surely knew much more; now? Well…not so much. I simply rely on my humanity and what I’ve learned over nearly 50 years doing this work. … Continue reading

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Does a BPD person pushing someone away mean that they have strong feelings for that person?

Maybe yes, maybe no. It certainly depends on the person with that particular diagnosis. Sometimes it is to separate and protect, and at others, it is simply unmetabolized rage wherein the person feels way to emotionally vulnerable to the other … Continue reading

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When did you realize you needed to see a mental health professional?

I did that as I became a “mental health professional” and it was time to deal with what was PTSD, but back then PTSD was not the in vogue diagnosis that it is now. I started this work when I … Continue reading

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How can I support someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) in a healthy way?

The answers to this question, Elizabeth, really depends on the reality that borderline conditions are not all alike. Some are high functioning and some medium and low functioning. The presence of acting out, violence, drug abuse, and self-destructive behaviors vary … Continue reading

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What’s something a therapist knows that would scare most people?

To live is to suffer, to feel pain, to struggle. There are good moments, too. But most of us need to give up the idea of banning pain and suffering from our lives.

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Do therapists ever feel emotionally vulnerable with clients?

Put it this way, you wouldn’t want to be in therapy with a person unable to be vulnerable to you, your thoughts, feelings, fears, dreams. It’s an important tenant of process-relational philosophy we must first be vulnerable to the experiences … Continue reading

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Therapists, do you like your clients on a personal level or is it part of the job so they trust and open up to you?

Interesting question, Hayden. At this point in my career, I only work with people I like. If in the initial contact I find an open dislike for a new client I work really hard in that initial session to understand … Continue reading

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Oranges

ORANGES For MJM 1946-1995 Felt it coming, I’ll bet, the earth’s final invitation. Lying motionless in dry grass under a leaning tree you watch a slatted sky pour the ripened sun. A steely Santa Anna furnaces noonday leaves just beyond … Continue reading

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