How can I choose a good therapist or psychiatrist? How can I know they are good at what they do or good for me? (Quora)

1st off, there are not many psychiatrists who actual engage in psychotherapy as they are pushed ever more into doing medication management. Clinical social workers provide the most therapy services in the US and many psychologists specialize in psychotherapy. Almost everyone you think about working with will be well trained and have the proper licenses, though you wan to check that. The real question is, are you comfortable with therapist you meet with. That can start be assessed in the initial phone call and the following initial appointment. Remember, a perfectly good therapist may be someone with whom you personally don’t connect with. It’s neither blamed on your or the therapist, it’s just a matter of fit. That should be your key point in deciding on whom to work with. Good luck.

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Why and when do we use family focused therapy or interpersonal and social rhythm therapy for bipolar disorder over CBT? (Quora)

I endorse family therapy for this. The patient with the diagnosis of bipolar disorder may also be in individual therapy. I suggest family therapy to work on issues, patterns and triangles that may contribute to the identified patient’s—here, the one with the diagnosis—symptoms. Family therapy can help the entire family confronting a member with a serious mental disorder. The impact of this disorder will reverberate throughout the family and that will create feedback for the identified patient(IP). As that patient begins to free her or himself from the role of the family’s IP s/he may well find the bipolar symptoms backing off.

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Should I seek help or am I just overreacting? (Quora)

I’m afraid we can’t be of any assistance as we need more information beyond your question. It might help if you were a bit more specific about what may be troubling to you?

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Can therapists tell the attachment style of a person after just a short period of time? And if so, how? (Quora)

Good question without a really good answer.
There are some therapists who say they can discern an attachment style relatively quickly even within the initial appointment. I have no reason to doubt this, but it runs counter to my more cautious stance on diagnosis & prognosis.
The research into attachment has spawned a number of good therapeutic interventions, or in my mind, enhanced ways of connecting with people who for whatever reason display problematic attachment styles and behavior.
I say I’m cautious about this as, in my experience, a quick assessment or diagnosis is held prey to counter-transference in the therapist. The quicker the diagnosis the more likely it’s colored by the therapist’s unconscious attachment styles that are then easily seen, through projection, in one or another patient.
I find that if I take more time to experience the relationship with a new patient the more sanguine I am regarding diagnosis and prognosis as I have allowed more data, so to speak, to accumulate to support my diagnostic thinking.
In closing, I’d like to point out that there are some gifted therapists in identifying and communicating attachment styles. These are time savers for sure and may allow them to move more quickly into treatment. & in our insurance dominated professions, speed and accuracy of diagnosis is held in high esteem.
However, as I’ve laid out above, this also has it’s down side in misconstruing the more delicate distinctions among attachment styles that then show the path to treatment and resolution of the patient’s problems.
Briefly stated, we humans are a complex lot that often requires slowed down approach that allows someone’s attachment difficulties to present them to and inside the therapist.

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Answers to question posed to me on Quora and online entity

Anyone can ask any kind of question or question on the website Quora. You can ask for answers anonymously or by using your name. You can ask a question posed to anyone who reads it and asks for an answer. Readers can follow those who answer or pose questions and you can also ask a question of a specific person. You can also “follow” anyone you find interesting. I primarily answer questions about psychopathology, therapy and on writing. I’ve just recently started posting both the questions and my answers. There are a variety of questions and many are intriguing.

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Is it possible to focus on multiple goals at the same time? (Quora)

The short answer is yes. However, it depends on the nature of the goals and how much each might take of your personal resources. Experimentation is a good approach to learning what your capacity for multi-tasking is. Again, it will vary according to the complexity and difficulty of each goal.

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Is it normal to have difficulty remembering if something happened in reality or a dream? (from Quora)

Your question, though intriguing is impossible to answer in a definitive way. There are some people who, like you, from time to time have difficulty distinguishing between the two. If it happens everyday and interferes with any part of the person’s life it might well be considered a psychotic process. The key is: How much does this confusion affect your life. If this is considered by you a minor nuisance to living I wouldn’t worry about it. If it happens all the time and interferes in any area of you life I’d talk to my physician to explain what is happening and asking him/her for a referral to someone who’s done this kind of work in the past.

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What is the word that defines someone who feel superior to poorer people than him and at the same time feel inferior to wealthier people than him? (Quora)

Knucklehead?
Just kidding. I don’t know of a word that would be defined by what you write in your question. All I can say is that those worries are rather pointless as well as trivial. It may be that people who worry in that way may be displacing far more meaningful and frightening worries on to the trivial in the hope of keep real anxiety at bay.

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Does anybody approve of me at all? I don’t think I do anything right.

It’s easy for someone like me to be glib in response to your anguish. I’ll try not to do that with telling you that you should love yourself, that you’re the most important person to believe in yourself. No. Those things may be true, but how to get there is the universal rub.

I would suggest that you get hold—easily available on Amazon Books—of Mark Williams & Danny Penman’s book; Mindfulness: An 8-week plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World. It’s a Rodale publication.

I suggest this as this is a quite easy to learn form of meditation that research has shown done some wonders with all kinds of human frailties and dilemmas such as yours. It’s a great way to see not only what you think, but also how what you think an fantasize about affects how you perceive yourself. Give it a shot. I’ve recommended this to many of my patients and all report very good results about the things with which they struggle.

I’m assuming—I hope not wrongfully— that you are a young person. I’m likely quite a bit older and more experienced which leads me to the following which you’ve no doubt heard before causing your eyes to roll back in your head; but stay with me with an open mind: These things, they ways we find ourselves so wanting and defective as a young person change as you get progressively older. You get to the point that you not only accept yourself, you may even find pride in who and what you are. Believe me, it comes, and I must say, quicker than you know. I know, my friends I have gone through it. Seems to be part of the evolutionary human condition.

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I am mentally broke. What should I do?

Yeah, were supposed to be tough guys. It’s quite an unnecessary burden for sure.
But what can you do? Here goes from my experience: Many churches, especially Unitarian-Universalist churches—I know about this group as I’ve been a Unitarian-Universalist on and off for over 45 yrs.—and others that have men’s groups where men can relate to and share themselves with other men.
Mindfully select a friend, male or female and mindfully & carefully begin to reveal the less traumatic aspects of your recent experiences. You’d be surprised how much, when they know what’s happening, they want to help.
Check out community resources for bereavement groups or groups of people living with the reality of a coming death of a loved one, family or friend.
You might also ask your physician for a referral to a therapist who is knowledgeable about terminal illnesses and grief. I do this work and have found those who come in for this type of health do quite well as they stay connected to the sick and or dying family member or friend.

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